Keep Running & Running…Patience, What’s That

A gentleman working for a Bank on a high position participated in my 'Success Mantra' Workshop in 2010. He did achieve a lot by participating in the workshop. After his official retirement he still got an extension looking at his earlier performances for few more years. Finally he completed tenure but still worked with another 2/3 financial institutions in due course & ultimately retired due to age factor.

Received a call from him nearly 2/3 years back where he narrated the entire roller coaster of life. While listening to him I realise that he can’t stay calm at one place. He has to work not because he needs money but to keep himself busy as even after achieving so much of success he was neither satisfied nor at peace with himself rather he is busy in running away from himself.

Why am I sharing this with you?

After a self-imposed curfew on 22nd March people did appreciated health workers by clapping & also using Conch & plates to make it more vibrant. There was good number of people who were conscious enough to stay home, keeping social distance & still appreciating.

Unfortunately there were many over excited people who killed the seriousness of the matter by gathering on road to make it an event as if we won the world cup. By celebrating in that manner we lost everything in minutes which was earn by being at home throughout a day.

There are many posts calling them fools are viral on social media but I don’t call them stupid because if it is so then we need to reserve the more superior words for the people who were on the roads in their cars the very next day after government declaring lockdown?

Railways, Metro & other services were suspended for the first time in history. Necessities such as grocery shops, chemist, banks & government offices etc. are exempted with limited attendance to run the show & requested people to stay home. Many Corporates gave work from home to their employees.

Then what was the necessity to venture out? Was it really important to move out by risking yours and others life?

We can understand if youngsters are careless or unaware of the effect of the Corona virus but what about so called educated, high profile or businessmen?

What are you going to accomplish?

Possibly to get insured amount at the earliest for your family isn’t?

I can narrate so many possibilities but I really want to leave it to your best imaginations as enough of the awareness has been created about this virus so it’s difficult to digest that anyone is unaware of its impact. If so then it will be a rarest thing in the world.

Actually we live as though it will never harm us in any manner. The way we take other things for granted the same way we live as though we are immortal.

Right from childhood our brain is bombarded with ‘Velocity is The Thing’. So keep running continuously as fast as possible to accomplish things at the earliest. The one who stops is finished. Hence we never learned where to stop or to take pauses as we are completely unaware of something called ‘Patience’. No one taught us to keep patience.

We don’t have time to stop at all. No matter what but we can’t stop for anything. If we do then someone will overtake us & that’s not alright. Even if it is death we want to be the front runner.

We can’t be at one place whether its office or home doesn’t make any difference. We work in office all the time is the myth. And if we stay home then family will know about it that we are same everywhere.

Knowing that even if we reach our office we may not be able to work or even to open the office still we struggle hard to reach offices or moved out just like that.

Even now when government has declare package for 3 months & made all the arrangements still we want to stock everything & even after that moving out again & again for what?

There is definitely a similarity between the people who celebrated on road, who rushed out with their cars & the ones who are coming out to buy something or the other or just to take a free breath.

Knowing the fact but still we don’t care if the virus is contagious & can kill thousands of people still they do come out because “Birds of a feather flock together”.

We are so used to for being a part of a flock that if we stay alone or kept in quarantine we feel like we are being sentenced to death or have put behind bars in prison. This is the actual mindset we possess & when you have this mindset, can anyone force you to stay home?

This is why our prime minister enrolled us in the idea of self-imposed curfew for a day & then declared 21 days nationwide lockdown. He is smart enough to involved people with their own will & there are many who are willingly supporting this movement.

We tend to believe that we need some free air or space to grow when we have this kind of mindset so when it comes to enjoying life the only idea we possess is to be a part of a group or a gathering.

How do you know that’s the only way to enjoy life?

We are so used to & so comfortable with the current scenario that we never went out of that zone to check if there can be any other way to live life fully. We don’t even want to think about it. Our mind is so closed with the idea of life that we are surviving on right now.

There are many ways to enjoy the life & one of them is to spend time with your own self & we are completely unaware that the time available can be used to know our own self in better manner & most of the time even our parents are alien to this fact.

When you will start spending time with yourself only then you will understand how gorgeous person you are.

“What we need is patience & not the haste to implement any big idea. And it doesn’t come just like that you need to develop a habit of it.”

We only forward such messages but don’t take pain to make it a part of our life as it’s so outdated. Now the entire world is following the footsteps of our ancestors to live a healthy lifestyle, can we make them part of our life now?

Till the time we don’t accept that there is something called ‘patience’ till that time being alone (Not lonely) will continue to means wasting time.

Nearly 30/40 years back it started hitting peoples mind that things like spirituality can be practiced after the retirement, after you become 60 years old. When you are young & your blood is boiling then you got to earn money as fast as possible. Money comes first even if it is costing you any relationship or the family.

Is it really possible to attain spirituality if the person has always ignored it throughout his life? And if there is no spirituality then there is no patience either.

In that old age a person will behave maturely or just like living a second childhood? Or being vulnerable to messing up life like most youngsters do?

And if this is what our future looks like then will our presence can be any different than this?

That’s why I say the way people razzle on the road in the name of appreciating health workers & the way people moved out in their cars & caused unnecessary havoc that’s not the stupidity in any manner. That’s how we are trained to live our life. That’s all.

We know it’s indeed a need of the hour to maintain a complete social distancing but the real fact is we are more scared to be alone or to be with our own self than the death itself.

I will not say that for a moment keep your fear aside or so because I know many of you are not even aware or will not even accept that you do have any fear of such kind.

In fact whether you like it or not but you need to stay home at least for 21 days isn’t? And the way government has offered package for 3 months so possibly government knows they are sitting on a volcano & lockdown may extent for few more months to save some lives.

You may be having valid reasons for moving out of the house & no matter how valid they are but still they are just reasons, isn’t? So stop fooling yourself & stay home.

Use this opportunity to quarantine yourself & learn to be friendly with your own self. Spare some time alone to know thyself & trust me you will love this company the most. Ultimately if you want to grow then knowing yourself is the best way possible.

While running a courier company for almost 31 years I have travelled across Bharat. More than travelling by flight I use to love travelling by train which normally use to take 16 to 36 hours to reach to a destination. In the journey I use to be friendly with many strangers, most of them I never met again but it used to be a fun. People just come & go but we remain with our own self till we die. That’s how life goes isn’t? In those en numbers of journeys I use to get lot of time to think & to be with myself which resulted into nourishing my life in a better manner. If I wouldn’t have taken time to shape my life then it was no way possible to contributing in someone else’s life.

So choice is yours…Patience which allows you to shape up your life or haste that throws you in danger? Choice is yours.

Time Management Guru | Relationship Guru | Shailesh Tandel